YES!!! I made it! A few weeks ago, I hit a major milestone that is revered by some and dreaded by others. What is this milestone I am excited about reaching? I blew out the candles on my fortieth birthday! I am so happy to have reached this stage in my life. What I believe is that there is so much more waiting for me to experience. Forty is not the start of the end of my life. I feel as though it is the beginning of something good. Check out below how I am doing forty in my own fabulous way!
How I Am Making Forty Fabulous
Get out more
Since having my VPs, I noticed I have become more of a homebody. Out of necessity, I stayed at home with them. Now that they go in to the “office” five days a week, I have more flexibility to step out of my cocoon to become more social again.
I am starting to get out more in a few different ways:
- Girls’ Days/Nights
- Working out at a café
- Checking out more events and networking opportunities
- Dinners for one out.
Being at home a lot with my VPs made it REALLY easy for me to lose a sense who I was for a while. It felt as though I was just someone’s mom, not the fun and adventurous person I was pre-VPs. Getting out more days a week while the VPs are at school are going to be become more social without having my mini entourage in tow.
Knowing my limits
My twenties and thirties have been about learning my limits. Over the years, I learned how late I could stay up and function the next day or the amount of days I could go skipping healthier meals. I also realized how much harder it is to bounce back from living beyond my limits. I felt groggy and not able to focus on anything.
At this stage of my life, staying within my limits is becoming more important than ever. I am making more of a conscious effort to eat better. There will be less late-night chip and decadent desert binges. I have gotten into the habit of snacking on celery and sipping on water in a fun glass before hitting the hay. I am also drinking less glasses of the bubbly, having shorter sessions on my couch, and less late nights/early mornings in front of my laptop. Doing all of these things will allow me to improve my well-being and feel better.
Working out. This has been a challenge for me to keep up with. It wasn’t too hard to get back into shape after the birth of the VP of Cuteness. But when the VP of Cuddles came along a year later, the wheels came off of my motivation train. I devoted myself to caring for my littles. This left me not caring for myself.
Now that the VPs are at the “office” more, I can turn my attention on me. I can now add a workout to my day. I figured when my energy levels are high and blocked off at least 30 minutes four days a week to physically be a better me. There are a few tricks I use to keep myself accountable. Setting out my workout clothing and put it in my line of vision when I wake up to put on. I also plan out my week to include which workouts I will be focusing on. Both of these methods take away the chance for me to make excuses as to why I can’t work out and keeps me on track. If I do not look out for my physical health, no one else will.
Taking time for me.
All work and not play makes me a VERY grumpy woman. Now that I am taking care of myself physically, it is time to take time out for my mental and emotional well-being. I am making more of a point to do things to relax and recharge. Some of the things I do to balance my mind are reading and doing word searches. Pamper sessions also help to ease out the stress in my life. Facials and mani-pedis always put me in a good mood. Downtime really allows me to decompress form a crazy day. Doing one or many of these things helps me get back to center and feel better about myself.
Facing my fears
We are all afraid of something. Some of them come from within. I feel that passing this milestone is opening the door for me to try my hand at a lot of things I may not have tied before. It is all about building up my confidence and taking a leap of faith. My other half inspires me to do this all the time. He is always telling me to stop dragging my feet and jump in to try new ventures.
I am now becoming more hands-on with DIY projects around my home. I am planning to travel more without my entourage to know what it is like to explore more on my own. Finally, I want to try my hand at building something for myself. Being more of my own boss and making me happy. Embracing the confidence, I feel I once had, will help me face my fears and overcome them. Facing my fears is a fabulous step I need to take to make this new chapter in my life a positive one.
Forty and fabulous
I am not sure where we have this idea of turning forty being the end of all of the fun. I think it is just the beginning of being free as an adult. For me, my teens, twenties, and thirties were years filled with a lot of highs and lows. A lot of this was because I was trying to figure things out in my life. Now that I have made goals to try to achieve, I want to flourish in this chapter of my life. I want to feel as though I am doing what makes me happier and healthier. Yes, forty is not making time turn backwards or is making me younger, but this new milestone is going to a fabulous one, and it will be done on my own terms.
How do you view turning forty? How would you make this milestone fabulous?
Until my next post, Readers!